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Summary/recap Sofia Ayalde 16/05/12

How des social communication change when gossip is included? Social communication change when gossip is included because before was formal communication, gossip entered and now is informal communication/gossip so lies enter and now bad concequences happens and people get hurted.

How does social communication/gossip change through out time? what can it lead people to do?

Social communication change through out time because if is bad managed it turns in to gossip and many lies can be added and it can have bad concequences such as depression, mistrust and even suicide. This can lead people to suicide, get depressed and invent more gossip. But when someone gossip to you you shouldnt pass it on, and when they gossip about you control your self.

=Can social communication change peoples life? = Yes because these can happen to people: =Victims:= =Gossipers:=
 * get their good reputation ruined.
 * get humillated
 * other people can mistrust the victims
 * get their friendships destroyed
 * their private things are exposed
 * have low self esteem
 * loose friends
 * make people mistrust him/her
 * loose self esteem
 * can get depressed

How can a gossip destroy a family? Sofia Ayalde 26/05/12

I saw in a **//Caracol//** novel called //**Primera Dama**// that a gossip destroyed a complete family. There was a woman called Paloma, she was really interested on being the first lady of Colombia and the only way of doing was to separate the family of the future president, Leonardo (dad), Ana Milena (mom), Cristina (daughter) and Diego (son). She took advantage that the family was having difficulties, so she invented a gossip. She had a friend who was the owner of a new paper, so she made her write on the front page: **//Ana Milena Sanjuan has a lover and is the boyfriend of her own daughter.//** And they putted also some false pictures to support the argument. So with this gossip the sons started to HATE their mom and her husband separated from her. All the country knew this gossip, and every body thought it was true. So in this way Paloma and Leonardo got married. Almost 1 year passed and when everybody knew that Paloma invented the gossip, it was to late. So in this way a hole family destroyed and many people were really affected, by only a gossip that was a lie, why? because Paloma was jelous and wanted power. At the end she was really sorry for making this gossip and she wanted to take all back, but it was to late, so we should think how serious are the things we are going to say before we say them. Usefulness This article is useful for us to see how and gossip can become so bad, that a family is destroyed.

Sofia Ayalde 15/05/12

[] How can you manage things when the gossip is about you? How can you deal with it in a way that won't make the situation worse?

If you can, figure out who started the rumor. It's important to get this information before you react to the rumor, so you can have a better idea of how to deal with it and the people who are spreading it.
 * Try to understand where it's coming from, and why **

Identify someone who didn't start the rumor and get him or her on your side. Ask this person to stick up for you, telling others in the group that the rumor is not true and, most importantly, very hurtful. This can be a lot to ask of someone, so you might try to find //two// people to do this.
 * Get someone in the middle to make a stand **

It just makes it worse when we reward gossipers efforts by getting visibly upset. Keep in mind that when someone starts a rumor meant to hurt another person. Imagine how disappointed this person will be when his or her plan doesn't work!
 * Don't give the bully what he or she wants **

It's tempting to think up lies or expose secrets that you know, and taking revenge in this way you might feel good for a short time. But in the end, it will just keep the cycle of rumors going.
 * Resist the urge to get revenge **

Think about what you've learned from a particular rumor experience, and let it help you make sure it never happens again. Here are some tips:
 * Lower the chances that it will happen again **
 * ** Be careful with your secrets. ** The more private information that you make public, the more ammunition the gossips will have
 * ** Use the buddy system. ** It helps to have a best friend who you can trust to be on your side and watch your back when you need it. Ask this friend to keep an ear out for gossip about you and let you know who's doing the gossiping. Of course, the best way to make sure your friend stays loyal is to do the same for him or her, and not betray the trust of friendship when it's your friend's turn to be a rumor target.
 * ** Resist the urge to dish it out. ** Don't be the person who's happy to spread rumors about other people, but freaks out when they're about you. If you spread gossip and rumors about others, one day you will be the victim of a gossip.

Sofia Ayalde 14/05/12 []

= How can bad gossip change a peoples live? =

Bad gossip can:
=Gossipers:=
 * ruin a person's good reputation.
 * humillate
 * cause doubts and mistrust
 * destroy friendships
 * expose private things
 * cause low self esteem
 * loose friends
 * make people mistrust them
 * loose self esteem
 * can get depressed

Daniela Mejía 12/05/12 [] Gossip has exited since language does.The transmission of informal information has been around us for a while, but it has had a big change, due to the variety of communication sources we have now days. Gossip is not good, it can encourage people to kill themselves due to the pressure. There have been cases in which people wich have conflicts with gossip, consider suicide.. so gossip isn't only about making people feel bad, it is bout ruining their lifes, in severe cases.
 * **How can gossip change throughout time? What can it lead people to? **

Usefulness This was our firts fact gained about CHANGE, so it helped us clarify our thoughts as well as realize that gossip is something natural, it is not something you learn, you can increase it, of course, but it is human nature to gossip and we can't tell people to stop it if they don't want to.